Do you remember the song “Wild Thing” from the 60’s?
Does that term ever come to mind when children are visiting in your home?
Not that my own kids were perfect, mind you. I was blessed with two zippy boys who are now grown and well-mannered (for the most part).
Nonetheless, it was my desire as a mother that when my children were visiting others, the hosts were not dreading their arrival, but were delighted to see them.
Is it possible?
Of course, but manners most be actively taught in addition to being modeled.
First, how do you deal with unruly kids who are visiting your home?
My philosophy was, “people are more important than possessions.” With that understood, I would then make a plan.
P Put away any items that are of great value or irreplaceable. Accidents happen.
L Lay out an area in your home where kids can create, move, socialize and eat.
A Act as the cruise director in stating house rules and guidelines.
N Never criticize a child, but kindly remind them, “In our home we don’t run.”
Secondly, how do I prepare my kids and or grandkids to be a welcomed guest rather than a Wild Thing?
Here are 10 suggestions to make that happen.
Have them:
1. Greet the hosts using their titles. “Nice to see you, Mr. and Mrs. Frantz.”
2. Ask their hosts if they should remove their shoes.
3. Hang up their coat and keep belongings together.
4. Take food only after it’s been offered.
5. Ask where to be seated for a dinner.
6. Engage in pleasant conversation (nothing gross or rude).
7. Stay in the area of the house where the party is. (Snooping is not allowed.)
8. Clean up after themselves. Ideally, they should offer to help clear the table or assist in picking up toys.
9. Notify hosts if something spills, breaks, or is damaged.
10. Thank the hosts face-to-face before leaving and say something positive about the evening.
And if the child visiting adheres to these guidelines, trust me: we won’t be thinking Wild Thing, but saying, “What a delightful child. They can come any time.”